31 Oktober 2008
Dear Editor,I am sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Malay male readers. I am a White female who is engaged to a Malay male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Malay female's attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Malay women were slim to none.
As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage. Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Malay men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Malay women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Malay men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of, 26 years for one of us. Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes, ...I could go on and on.
But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Malay men, let me know.Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in Bangsar.
-----------------------------------------------This letter was written in response to the article:
Dear Editor,I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl. Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old Malay man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in England with a Masters Of Science Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a Multinational Corporation and have recently purchased a house and a brand new non-national car. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful Malay men. I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why Malay men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why Malay men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The Malay girls in my neighborhood were raised traditionally. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.
Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of Malay males date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of Malay men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our Malay women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many Malay men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous Malay men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight.
I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful Malay men date white women. Non-Whites like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestn! ut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong Non-White women. And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire Non-White women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few. I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed. Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess.
Remember, when Non-White Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history! It was the Non-White woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the Non-White woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was Non-White women who were breastfeeding and raising your ! babies during slavery. It is the Non-White woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Malay women were born with two strikes against them: being Non-White and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise! It is because of the Malay women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my Malay Queen.
It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about Malay women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highestpotential while enduring great pain and suffering is! Why I have fallen in love with Malay women. I honestly believe thatyour anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the Non-White woman has.
BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.No offense taken, none given.
*pheww.. i wish i can meet this guy and belanja him for lunch?? hehehe*
busted! hehehe.. psst, jangan tengok kawasan sepah2 tu.. mama dah tak larat nak buat apa dah.. semua barang dia
ha ha! suke sangat la tu dapat main air..
cepat la hujung minggu.. nak rehat sikit.. *sorry article lately in english.. practicing my ielts next week.. huhu
28 Oktober 2008
27 Oktober 2008
yesterday.. i managed to bake kek lapis asam.. it's my MIL recipes.. turned out very well that half of it has finished by today.. hahaha.. only managed to bring 1/4 of the cake to reen's openhouse.. kih kih.. the recipe for the cake is very easy.. but the waiting for each layer to cook was quite exhausting.. but mind you guys.. that i really love to cook.. so, waiting was just a piece of cake.. cakap bosa la pulok.. kuikuikui..
26 Oktober 2008
hari jumaat, mama balik ke kl dalam kul 11 gitu.. papa demam, aiman x sihat.. jadinya, mama la drive sensorang.. ooOOoo.. dah lama dah x drive balik kl sendiri.. dah namanya ada papa, kita selalu la jadi co-driver yang selalu tertidur.. kui kui kui.. sampai kl petang tu, terus aje mama ke dentist.. appointment cam biasa... malam tu mama tidur rumah emak papa.. nenek aiman dapat main2 dengan aiman puas hati gitu.. sabtu pagi, mama drive papa yang demam tu ke dentist appointment papa pulak.. then, petangnya, kami sekeluarga ke Megakidz, Midvalley... sebabnya, Aiman's bday party la.. weeeehhooooo... akhirnya, hajat mama tercapai juga.. kalau kata la nanti mama dah tak ada kat dunia ni, mama nak aiman tahu yang mama pernah buat bday party untuk aiman ye sayang..
alhamdulillah, bday party aiman berjalan dengan lancar sangat2.. ramai yang sudi hadir.. almaklum, waktu2 raya ni ramai yang sibuk.. tapi mama berbesar hati sungguh sebab ramai sudi hadir.. dan present untuk aiman pun banyaaaakkkkk.. hohoho.. tochei2..
so, bday party aiman yang besar sikit ni, theme thomas and friends.. aiman suka betul dengan thomas.. boleh terpaku depan tv kalau tgk thomas.. haha.. petang tu ramai kawan2 aiman n mama papa yang sudi hadir (ikut turutan la ye).. antaranya,
- maklong, paklong n abang shafiq (awal gitu datang)
- aunty zeti n mika (mika punya rambut cute sgt..
- aunty hanim (aunty, nama Aiman memang pendek aje laaa)
- aunty ujick
- aunty azah, uncle and heidi (cute sangat heidi.. happy go lucky)
- aunty syu and adam (x sempat auntie main2 dengan adam aritu ye)
- aunty esah, uncle raman n haikal (haikal enjoy sampai habis party.. hehe)
- aunty nisa, uncle firdaus n adam (sian kat adam demam)
- aunty nisa', uncle zeli n danish (x puas auntie nak kenal danish)
- aunty izan n uncle
- aunty aweng n uncle mel
- aunty atie, uncle kairel n anas (datang rumah tok ayah lagi gitu)
- tok dad cik, pah mom cik, auntie anis, uncle cik n uncle chu
- pah chu, uncle arshad, auntie tisya, uncle kalil n uncle ahmad
- tok ayah + wancu + mak teh + pak ngah amin (memang wajib gitu)
- mak lang n uncle shafiq (puas hati depa dua ni main.. hehehe)
ha.. alhamdulillah, ramai la yang datang bday aiman.. sorry sangat sebab tak terlayan.. dengan aiman meragam sikit2.. sebab dah letih n wancu kasik aiman pening lompat2 atas balloon tu.. huhuhu.. thanks for everything ye.. we love all of you.. insyaAllah, ada ruang kelapangan, boleh kita berkumpul lagi ye tak??
so, enjoy these piccas.. mama can't wait for the photographer piccas.. nanti mama habaq kendian okey..
mama n papa giving speech.. thanking everybody who came to the party
hungry aiman with cheeky mama
from left: pak ngah, mak teh n wancu in the house
guests.. love you guys
the birthday cake.. i ordered choc moist.. but instead i got butter cake.. turned out quite nice.. funny thing about this cake was that i bought the candle from the shop next door.. i wondered why i was quite expensive.. it turned out to be singing candle.. believe me.. it's true.. quite nice!
aiman's pressies.. thank you soooo much.. jazakallah..
*thanks a lot.. to everybody for all presents.. and to those who gave duit raya too.. aiman penuh kocek this raya.. huhu
24 Oktober 2008
- mama stress sebab hari hari dalam minggu ni mama kerja dari 8.00 am sampai 10.30pm.. hari ni hari terakhir prep class IELTS.. esok harap2 boleh kurang sikit stress bab ni
- mama stress sebab kerja bertimbum dan banyak dateline next week.. gilerrrr ahhh.. ini la penangan APEX u ni..
- mama stress sebab mama tak berjaya lagi upload gambar aiman punya bday party.. yang kawan2 mama minta nak tengok.. hish!! geram la.. tak reti pulak mama nak bega2 nak upload dari photobucket.. dah masuk kat sana tapi tak boleh nak upload kat blogspot.. help anyone? pleeaaassseeee..
- mama stress sebab badan dah sakit2 dah ni.. tapi cuba bertahan sekuat mungkin.. at least sampai hujung bulan ni.. (next week la tu)
- mama stress sebab bulan ni mama kena menses 2 kali.. dan mama tak berjaya habiskan puasa 6!!
- mama stress sebab proposal tak hantar lagi.. supervisor tak reply mail mama.. mama stress banget bab ni!!!
- mama stress sebab banyak sangat meeting kena attend.. minggu ni aje ade dekat 5 meeting mama attend.. tak produktif aku minggu ni..
- mama stress sebab ada 2 journal paper dah print, tapi tak dapat baca lagi.. stress juga sebab cita2 nak baca buku cerita ayat- ayat cinta masih tidak berjaya..
- stress juga tgk rumah cam tongkang.. nasib baik ada irda (mak teh aiman) bantu kat rumah sikit2.. sayang mak teh.. tq tq tq
aiyo! banyak betul stress minggu ni.. tak boleh la nak bayang camne weekend ni.. mesti tak menarik langsung.. duh!
*i think i need a vacation.. ASAP** (ayat cam boss bagi kat mama pasal pi belajar.. huhu.. mama tanya, "prof, ASAP prof tu asap tebal ke asap nipis?" kui kui kui.. memang nak kena staf dia sekor ni.. ahaks)
**ASAP -As Soon As Possible
14 Oktober 2008
- isnin - tele-conference meeting with MMU & Uniten kat induk -checked!
- selasa - jamuan raya office, kena jadi emcee & pengarah majlis -checked!
- rabu - pulangkan proposal final year project student + perjumpaan dengan first year student
- khamis - meeting dengan dr habibah geohazard group
- jumaat - balik kl + dentist appointment
- sabtu - birthday party aiman + sambutan raya BTR
- ahad - balik parit buntar..
haiyooooooooo... mama sampai hujung bulan ni calendar dah packed.. itu tak masuk kerja2 lain yang lagi memoningkan kepala!!!! haiyo! kain baju idak lipat, rumah macam tongkang, submission report yang berlambak, phd application, itu la, ini la.. boleh terbalik mama ni..
10 Oktober 2008
esok, mama ada jemputan kenduri dan open house kat ipoh n penang.. ahad, rumah nak kena serbu dengan kawan2 terchenta.. jadinya, kena la bersih2 apa yang patut.. nak prepare menu utk tetamu lagi.. uuuu..
okey.. mama roger n out!!
8 Oktober 2008
lepas settle dekat BC tadi, papa ajak mama gi gurney plaza.. sebab haritu dia beli belt kat situ.. dia nak potong kasi pendek sikit.. kami lunch dulu kat korean BBQ chicken (sedapnye ayam teriyaki dia.. kali ke3 dah ni) kami masuk la ingat nak ke parkson kasi settle papa punya hal.. sekali parkson dia tutup daaa.. agaknya untuk renovation dia kut.. mama pun asalnya ingat nak singgah parkson nak cari balang kuih.. sebab rumah nak kena serbu weekend ni.. balang kuih hapa pun tak ada.. huhuhu..
sebab parkson dah tutup, kami pusing la gurney plaza tu kejap.. sekali terjumpa kedai ni.. apa laie.. mama pujuk baikkkk punya kat papa, kami try la fish spa dia.. weekdays harga murah sikit.. fish spa + foot reflexology = RM61.20 (harga asal RM81/pax) huhu.. what an experience.. mula2 macam geli2 juga.. sebab kena masuk pool yang ade dr. fish yang kecil2.. pastu baru pindah ke kolam sedang dan kolam besar.. masuk 30 mins pun dah rasa puas betul.. mama rekemen la kat semua.. cuba la spa ni.. kaki rasa bersih wooo.. lepas tu, buat foot massage pulak.. huhuhu.. selesa betul kaki.. rasa macam nak terbang je..
7 Oktober 2008
5 kereta serbu rumah kak yati malam tu.. hahahaha
esok la pulak mama samb entry raya ni.. nak samb kerja.. kekekeke
raya keempat tu sebelum balik kl, kami ke rumah wak kamisah dan ke kulai beraya rumah anak wak tumi (kak ana).. mula2 tu risau jugak sebab takut jem.. alhamdulillah.. perjalanan kami balik ke kl mudah betul hari tu.. macam takde raya je.. tak jem.. sampai kl petang sabtu tu dalam jam 7.. drop mil and sil.. pastu balik rumah abah mama.. beraya dengan depa.. malam tu tergolek pengsan keletihan kul 10 malam.. itupun lepas tengok tv.. hahaha.
my in-laws.. nak mamam pagi raya
ramli clan.. hehehe..
okey.. sambung entry episode 2 pulak ye..
birthday girl and birthday boys..
konon2 pembesar negara gitu.. ekekke
muka muka kekenyangan